Betty Lou (Murphy) Surdam

SALISBURY — Betty Lou (Murphy) Surdam, 82, passed away Jan. 16, 2022, at Noble Horizons surrounded by her children.

Betty was born Aug. 24, 1939, to Clarence Luther Murphy and Ada (Foster) Murphy.

She worked for VNA northwest Inc. for more than 30 years. She loved and cared for her clients like they were her own family. She always made sure to keep in contact with family members long after her clients passed on.

When she wasn’t taking care of her clients she could be found tending to her beloved gardens and pond life or hosting cookouts at her home.

Betty was a very social person and made sure to always be present at local events.

She could be considered the town grandmother, as she was always taking in and looking after the neighborhood children.

Along with her parents, Betty was predeceased by her husband, Richard Surdam; a niece, Sandra Murphy Wheeler; and her siblings, Henry “Hank” Murphy, Clarence “Buddy” Murphy Jr., James S. Murphy and Judy Wilson.

She is survived by her children, Karen Reel and her partner, Edward, Mark Reel and his wife, Lisa, and David Reel and his partner, Keisha Clement; a brother, Danny Murphy and his wife, Jean; four grandchildren, Allycia Soule and her husband, Trevor Soule, Hanna Reel and her husband, Bobby Carberry, Belle Reel and Westley Reel; and five great-grandchildren, Cassidy Burcroff, Rylan and Cayden Soule and Robert and Amelia Carberry; and several nieces, nephews and stepchildren.

A celebration of life will be held in the spring.

The family wishes to extend sincere thanks to the Amazing and Dedicated Staff at Noble Horizons.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to the Lakeville Hose Co. #1, P.O. Box 1969, Lakeville, 06039 ;or Salisbury Ambulance, P.O. Box 582, Salisbury, CT 06068.

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